A few weeks ago I got lucky and was given a free ticket to attend the 1st ever Mama’s Making it Summit. Thank you, My Domain! Here’s a recap of what went down, lessons learned and why I’m taking a break from colour pop lipsticks.
This is irrelevant, but I stood inches away from Jamie King and her skin was flawless. She was seriously glowing from the inside the way only the nicest, sweetest of humans can. Swoon.
There were several booths there sharing their products. Spiritual Gangster was dolling out custom embroidered millennial pink hats. (pssttt… if you like millennial pink as much as I do check this out!) I got a hat that that says ‘bethanimal’, but my favorite thing about the booth is that sign on the right. All the mama’s I met at the summit + the speakers are the most gangster women in LA.
Above is Natalie, moderator and founder of Fashion Mama’s speaking to Simone LeBlanc CEO of Simone LeBlanc, Ashleigh Dempster co-founder of Akid and Tylynn Nguyen designer at TyLynn Nguyen. All three women started their own companies because they saw a gap in the marketplace that needed to be filled. Ashleigh resonated with me the most because she started a kid’s shoe line after having a son a deciding that kid’s shoes were not that cute. Her husband is a sneaker head and luckily has some experience with factories so he set her up 3 years ago and she launched the business that sells kids shoes that look like they could be in Vogue.
Lunch is served. Can i be honest? This was my favorite part. I was so hungry after running out of the house without breakfast!
Okay, so even though I have never watched the Bachelorette, Ali Fedotowski was seriously cool. Like, I was attracted to her. She had such a good attitude and was really honest about monetizing her blog. Key lessons learned during this panel were primarily from her (probably because she is also a blogger) and they were:
Spend money on photos. She says she spends loads of money on her photos and she had recently shot 14 looks in one day changing in her car between shots.
Save money on clothes. She told us all that she returns most of what she buys and Nordstrom is her favorite place to shop.
Use rewardstyle for everything. She’s a top 25 publisher, so a bit of an outlier, but she only works with brands that are on reward style. This was if they don’t pay her a lot for the sponsored post she still makes commission.
I also found Julie Soloman incredibly insightful and have been listening to her podcast as much as I can ever since the summit. A few key learnings from her were:
Don’t devalue yourself. She calls it blogger devaluation when you accept an unpaid or in-kind job and it’s bad for you and the whole blogger ecosystem.
On that note, never give your rate first. Always ask the brand’s budget. This is a sales tactic I think many of us use, but when it comes to selling yourself, it can be difficult especially when it’s a brand we adore. I used to have creators taking product from luxury brands for exposure when they could have asked for thousands of dollars and got it.
Note, Ali mentioned that she asks other bloggers what they make to get a feel for the landscape. I’m not sure how accurate that will be or how much it will help of bloggers you know are devaluing themselves, but I had my partners use social blue book when I was a Partner Manager for fashion and beauty creators at YouTube. I also just heard about Dash Hudson which will tell brands which influencers will make them the most money. Could be a great resource to know your theoretical value to a brand. My Domain was there taking headshots so I hopped on over to their not-suprisingly stylish set to have a professional photog capture my mug. When I showed up the photographer kindly let me know I had lipstick on my teeth. Yikes, I had JUST checked my teeth in the bathroom mirror because well, I often have lipstick / leafy greens all up on my grill. I was embarrassed so I gave them my smile of shame. Of course, I don’t like the picture, but there you have it internet.
Wearing color pop chandelier on my lips. I actually lost my tube that day and it was new. Luckily they’re only $6 and there’s one in my cart right now! Any other colors I should get?
All photos by @howlandrose courtesy of @fashionmamas
You know what I am LOVING? Every Who What Wear x Target piece like, ever. After quitting my job at Google to blog/vlog/mother my babies full-time, I realized I have like, zero casual outfits. That combined with my clothing budget being greatly reduced (goes along with saying goodbye to my corporate salary eeekkkkk…. it will pay off, I know it!) has me picking up pieces at budget and style-friendly places like Target, Old Navy, H&M, etc. This dress, although not super-casual (I have a fancy dress problem, guys.) is so breezy and chic, I couldn’t pass it up. I’m going to wear it half-way unbuttoned over jeans in the fall to really maximize my cost-per-wear.
I wore this to the Fashion Mama’s ‘Mama’s Making It’ Summit at the W in Hollywood last Saturday. It was such an honor (and a huge inspiration) to be there. Stay tuned for a more in-depth recap and some photos of the beautiful event!
Hello and happy Friday! Like many, one of my favorite things about Summer is the longer days. The Banker is home before dark much more often in the Summer so we get to take a family stroll and catch up on the day before the kids go to sleep. It a great way for us to get in some exercise on days where something more intense isn’t possible. I’m wearing a new Tobi shift dress that I’ve been living in this week because it’s been super hot in our house. It’s the kind of lazy-day piece I’ll wear around the house, out to eat with the family (with a little bralette or cami under) and as a cover-up at the pool. Who doesn’t need more pieces like that?
You guys, it’s almost the 4th of July! [Insert fireworks emoji.] It’s always so much fun getting people together to celebrate. I love the pool time, the gluten free turkey burger someone always begrudgingly throws on the grill for me and of course, blue and red is one of my favorite color combos. Just not on skin. In exchange for fun in the sun, one must of course wear sunscreen (or you really will be red) so I’ve made you guys a little video about my all time favorite sunscreen products. These are sure to keep you oiling and lotioning, lotioning and oiling with the best of them all Summer long.
*Thank you Preen.Me for providing some of the Supergoop products featured. All opinions are my own.
If you follow me on Instagram you know I’ve been having trouble prioritizing my workouts lately. I love going to yoga, but it’s been really difficult to get my mat time in. I’ve got 99 excuses, but lack of / love of sleep is the main one. I just started Kayla Itsine’s BBG program and it’s kicking my ass. It’s so convenient too. Each workout is 28 minutes so I do them after I get the kids to sleep at night, but before I Netflix and Chill. I am trying to get up earlier to get my workouts in before the kids wake up so I started a morning bootcamp at my yoga studio which begins at 6:15 (insert yawn face) and lasts for 2 weeks. I’m hoping that morning wakeup call and the joy of having completed a gnarly workout by 7:15 am changes my habit of sleeping in until 6:30-7 everyday. More importantly, I’m hoping it helps me change my habit of staying up until 12am each night.
Trying to look totally ‘natch’ in my new mesh jacket. 🙂
Do you have any habits you are trying to break? Any Summer workout or fitness goals you are trying to make? Whatever it is, remember it IS possible. If I can be at the gym by 6:15 anything is possible! #notamorningperson
Move of the week: lunges. Adding jumping lunges to the end of my workouts all week to get that booty in swim suit shape! Bra / Jacket / Shorts
I recently went to a ‘mom’s night out’ and some of the mamas were asking me about my new ‘do. While flattered (really, good hair is not something I pride myself on thanks to lack of time and propensity for frizz) I can’t take much credit because it was my friend and stylist Katie Carroll that hooked me up with my new-and-improved mane. Talking with many of the moms that night made me realize many of us had the same issue — hair loss after pregnancy. We just weren’t talking about it. Sure, we have a thousand (give or take a few) more important issues to discuss, but if you’ve ever experienced hair loss you might agree it’s tough to well, get out of your head.
To combat my hair loss after having our youngest, I tried a multitude of things. Some days the kitchen looked like a pharmacy meets chemist lab with Viviscal, Biotin and DIY yogurt, avocado, name-that-trendy-oil hair masks strewn about. I don’t want to say none of them worked, but I wasn’t getting the results I wanted as quickly as I wanted them so I turned to Katie for tape in hair extensions, cut and color. Now I am wondering why I didn’t go sooner. Oh yeah, she’s in AZ! (Insert sad face). If you happen to be on the Phoenix area, her contact info is below. 🙂 If you’ve ever thought about getting extensions, watch my video because I’m breaking it all down for you!
Find Katie on Instagram and if you’re in the Scottsdale/Phoenix area, I couldn’t recommend her enough for cuts, color or extensions. She’s done them all for me over the years and left me happy. Her contact info is in her Instagram profile. 🙂
My mom died almost 9 years ago. 9 years. It seems surreal to even write that now almost a decade later. Sometimes I still want to call her. Sometimes I look at my own two beautiful, happy, unaffected children and mourn the relationship that she will never have with them. I mourn the relationship that I will never have with her. The best friend I don’t get. The help I don’t have.
But I’m also relieved. I’m relieved that she’s not in pain on Earth. Suffering through anxiety, depression and a debilitating mental illness. I’m no longer sick with my own anxiety over whether or not would not wake up the next time she deemed this life too uncomfortable to bear. Shortly after her death, a close friend told me, ‘you’re finally free’ and I thought, ‘now, that’s cold‘. There is a sense of freedom in death though. With freedom comes great responsibility (right, America?) but it’s a burden I’ve learned to bear with strength and joy (most days).
In the past few years, I’ve witnessed friends suffer their own significant personal loss. Whether they’ve lost one of their parents, experienced yet another painful miscarriage or, the one that I’m still wrapping my brain around, lost a spouse who left behind not only her but their young son, I feel the pain all over again. I am reminded of my own experience and how I deal with grief and I want to share that story in hopes that it helps those who have lost a loved one feel a tiny bit better. Even if just for a moment.
Hey guys! I have thought about making this video for awhile, but I didn’t want it to be too ‘click-baity’. Some of you have been asking me about quitting my job, so I finally put together a Why I quit my job at Google video for you! It’s not at all comprehensive as there were many, many reasons that I left. Reasons that I gave serious consideration for at least a year. I was so scared to unlock those golden handcuffs, but at the end of the day I had to stop living in fear and start living. Watch the video to find out more and please leave me a comment on YouTube if you have any questions or want to know more! Thank you guys for reading and watching — it means so much!
^Just for fun this is me at the YouTube HQ circa 2013. The photo was in Refinery29 and I am dying because that outfit was so so so bad. I asked The Banker why he let me wear that and he said he thinks it is cute. I was nervous to be in Refinery29 so I wore all of my best pieces TOGETHER. No girl, no.
I’m honored to have teamed up with Banana Republic once again to share what moves me. I think of my children automatically. A few weeks ago, we went to Mammoth Mountain for the first time. Harlowe had never skied and despite being together since 2009 and having snowboarded several times since then, Kaare and I had never snowboarded together. What?! Unreal I say!
So when he had to go to Mammoth for work I decided the kids and I should go out and meet him because why should he have to ‘work’ all by himself? 😉 Harlowe went to ski school during the day which was a little overwhelming for her because it was only her 2nd time even seeing snow. (Her first time was actually earlier this month in Palm Springs!) Anyway, we sent her off to ski school and The Banker and I did a few runs which took me a long time because I am rusty! After a few runs, we went to watch Harlowe and she saw us and had a melt down! Never, ever show up for your kid’s ski lessons. The instructors will hate you and your heart will break when you see your baby crying. It took everything not to pull her out and hug her. She was stronger than me because after we left, we could see her get right up and give it her all until she got up the poma and down the hill ALL BY HERSELF.
To say it was one of my proudest moments is an understatement. Kaare and I were both overwhelmed with joy and pride that she stuck with it and she did it! When asked if she wanted to go again the next day, she said, ‘definitely not’, but she’s talked about her first time skiing every day since so I know how much it meant to her.
The first time I went skiing until I was 17 and my friend’s mom took me and paid for my rentals and lift ticket then graciously taught me to ski. I still remember how much fun it was and how empowered I felt coming down Mt Lemon alone for the first time. It felt like I was going 40mph but I was probably going slower than the small kids. I am so glad that we were able to give Harlowe that experience as a little kid! I honestly think she’s already a better skier than me and it makes Kaare and I so happy that she has these opportunities that neither of us had as kids.
We wrapped up the trio with some breakfast tacos with friends and I wore this ruffle sweater from Banana republic — perfect for colder Spring days like we experienced in Mammoth and on sale! I’ve been loving all things ruffled lately especially when paired with studs like these freakishly good Valentino dupes! Got to have a little bit of edge with your outfit especially when you’re feeling like a bad ass mom after a day ‘sending it’ (slowly but surely)!
I noticed my first wrinkle at the age of seventeen. I was in my grandma’s bathroom where we were both getting ready for the day and I caught a glimpse of a tiny line that could only be the beginning of crows feet mirror. Out of surprise, I began to cry and my grandma told me that crying would only make more wrinkles. Tough love I suppose, but that day was the day I started taking better care of my skin. Growing up in Arizona, I was always in the sun and it showed in freckles and tiny lines before I was legally an adult. I started using Clinique my senior year in high-school (which I’ve dubbed the gateway drug of skincare) using too much of my money earned lifeguarding and teaching swim lessons to pay for their 3-step regimen. I finally started drinking the recommended amounts of water mixing it with lemon to make it more desirable. It seemed to work. I wasn’t getting new wrinkles yet…
Fast forward to now, I’ve had two kids (read: little sleep), love the outdoors and like most, I’ve had my fair share of shockingly stressful and shockingly wonderful life experiences. All of which have left a few lines, roughness, dark circles and ugh, bags under my eyes. Now before I get all vain on you, you should know that I abhor the word ‘anti-aging’. I am so incredibly happy that I get to age. Everyday we get to live one more day is a blessing and if that means skin has to look a little more worn, it’s a small price to pay, but I do pride myself on taking care of my skin along the way.
So when my friends at Peter Thomas Roth reached out and asked if I wanted to try their brand-new Water Drench Hyaluronic Cloud Cream and Serum I was like, how soon can you ship? If you don’t know about hyraluronic acid yet, where have you been?! It’s going to help lock in moisture while improving hydration for healthier-looking skin. It’s crazy because it attracts and retains up to 1,000 times its weight in water from moisture in the atmosphere. Excuse me while I apply it and then hang out in the marine layer all morning. The serum also contains superpower humectants like Sodium PCA, Sea Algae, Honey and Yerba Santa from the Pacific Northwest to help replenish the appearance of dehydrated, aging and environmentally-damaged skin. Fine lines, wrinkles and roughness are visibly diminished and your skin actually feels smoother so you know it’s working. I shot these after using it twice daily for just one week.
Now, so you can tell the difference, below is a pic of me before using it. I’m sitting in the same room at the same time of day and am wearing the same face makeup. Overall, the roughness diminished a little and my complexion is generally more youthful-looking and glowy. Of course, food, sleep and a number of different things can effect this, but I know I ate and slept like crap before and after both photos so I will be stocking up on this stuff.
Check out my video on my winter skin care routine for more of my favorite products. They’ll be good to your face all year long.