10 Ways to Show Yourself Some Love

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Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and love is on all of our brains. Whether your a happily-married mother or a lady who’s looking, unwavering self-love isn’t always easy. I grasp it one day, but the next day, I catch myself thinking unloving and/or unhelpful thoughts. Those two things often go together. Since February is the month of ‘love’, I’m sharing a few ways to help you practice self-love this month and always.

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Self Love tee / jeans

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  1. Indulge in a massage or facial. My favorite place for facials in LA is Alchemie Spa on Main Street. They use all organic products and I always leave feeling like I don’t need a stitch of makeup.
  2. Take a walk in nature.
  3. Take a ‘mental health day’ from work. If you stay at home with kids ask a good friend or family member to watch them for the day or even a few hours and return the favor!
  4. Volunteer.
  5. Go to yoga.
  6. Lather up with luxurious shampoo and conditioner. I’ve talked about my go-to plenty of times and Winter is the perfect time to add it to your shower routine because in helps combat seasonal dryness. Show your locks some love with Shu Uemura Ultimate Remedy 2 x a week and if you’re working with medium length hair, this will last you ~6 months.
  7. Take some professional selfies. I do this more than I probably should, especially when I was fashion blogging. See above. You may not love it now, but decades from now you will love seeing pictures of your beautiful mug as it was. You are more beautiful than you believe.
  8. Read.
  9. Organize a book swap.“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.” -Charles William Eliot. Get your hands on some friend’s books with book swap… do it over brunch or mimosas to make it even better.
  10. Treat yourself to some new pajamas. I have my fave pair in a new color on the brain but, boy do these babies look identical at less than $20.

Mother

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Guess who finally snagged a pair of Mother jeans? Me! Yes, these ones are the Looker Ankle Fray?! Daaaang, these are just as good as I had heard. I am such a sucker for jeans and frequently hear from KW who thinks that 2 small drawers of jeans is about one and a half drawers too many. I have been wearing these non-stop since they arrived at my doorstep two weeks ago. They are like pajamas they are so comfortable. Unlike pajamas, I wear them to the office, kid drop off and date night (as seen here with this lovely cold shoulder blouse). I love not having to think about what to wear on my bottom half. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
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Thank you for reading! I hope you have a great day!

Blouse / jeans / shoes

Little Black Athleisure Dress

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I think I’ll live in these huaraches my sweet husband bought me a few months back.  They’re my go-to with LBDs, raw hem jeans, and of course, athleisure momiforms that make getting ready in the morning (and chasing after toddlers) easier.

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I don’t have a lot going on up top as far as my chest is concerned so I don’t mind a deep-V neck, but for daytime, I throw on a long-sleeved tee underneath for a little coverage.

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^Not posing at all 😉 in front of the cutest pink door.

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Dress / Jacket / similar top (the top I am wearing is from H&M but was purchased in store and I can’t find it online!) / shoes

5th Wedding Anniversary Gift Ideas (+ a Giveaway!)

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Hi beautiful friends! I’ve publicly gushed about this a dozen times already, but last month was our 5th wedding anniversary! I can’t believe how quickly time has flown by. Backing up a bit, I can’t believe I’m freaking married! I was never one of those girls who dreamed of a marrying, but I snagged a handsome prince and  I couldn’t imagine not spending the rest of my life with him. On 11/18/2011 we said ‘I do’ at city hall in San Francisco and it was the best decision I have ever made! My husband (aka ‘the banker’ aka ‘KW’) makes me a better, much happier person and I am so grateful that he came in to my life at a time when I needed love the most. Right after my mom died, he walked in to my life and I seriously think he was sent from my angels. I just love him and am so thankful that he has been there for me for 10 years now if you count all the time we were friends in college. I couldn’t imagine where I would be with out KW.

So what do you get someone so special on your 5 year anniversary? When you ‘google’ it, you find that wood is the traditional option. So how about a wood watch? True or False: with this watch he will never be late again. Probably false, but he will have a unique sandalwood watch that tells him how much I appreciate our time together. Particularly his sense of adventure and willingness to make me tacos every Friday night. The deep iris blue carbon fiber is a favorite of the dark and stormy types. Perfect for my Capricorn.

Whether it’s your five-year wedding anniversary or first holiday together, a Jord Watch might be the perfect gift for your loved one. You can score $25 off of one for yourself. The giveaway will close 01/08/2017 at 11:59pm. Every one of you who enters will be instantly emailed a $25 e-gift code to use on Jord! Note: each e-gift codes will expire on 02/28/2017.

If you’re interested, here’s more of the goodness I found out about 5th wedding anniversary gifts:

  • 5th Traditional Anniversary Gift: WOOD
  • Modern Gift: SILVERWARE
  • Gemstone: SAPPHIRE
  • Flower: DAISY
  • Popular Songs 5 Years Ago: “TIK TOK” – Ke$ha
    “HEY, SOUL SISTER” – Train
  • Price of Gasoline when you got together: $2.83 / gallon

Don’t forget to enter my Jord Watch giveaway to snag $25 off of a watch for you or your loved one. Good luck and thank you so much for reading!

Need more? Check out these other gift ideas for men! 🙂


Casual Outting

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Hello friends! I can not believe it is almost Thanksgiving! Yesterday, I shared 4 tips for effortless holiday dressing and today’s look is for Black Friday or Shop Small Saturday or any day. 🙂 If you’re like me, you’ll be in workout clothes Friday morning burning off those margaritas. (We have cranberry margaritas for Thanksgiving!)  After that, I’ll be on the couch catching up with my lovely in-laws. I can’t wait for all the family and friends time, but of course I’ll shop online just a tiny bit especially on Shop Small Saturday.

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Where do you shop this time of year? Any good tips for kid’s gifts? Some of my favorite small shops for this kids are:

Bug+Wink
Whistle and Flute
Purl Lamb
Brooklyn and Fifth

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No matter what this weekend brings, I’ll probably be in this cashmere hoodie quite a bit. It’s 50% off if you’re looking for a gift for yourself. 🙂 I hope you have an amazing Thanksgiving and enjoy your time with family.

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4 Tips for Effortless Thanksgiving Outfits


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Holiday looks around here have gotten quite effortless. I’m talking boyfriend jeans, ultra-soft camisole (40% off!), one-step-removed-from-pajamas effortless. This season, it’s pretty hard to avoid velvet…but why would one want to? I opted for a sleek, velvet top that is fitting for LA’s faux-fall when worn alone and can easily be layered under a jacket for the office or if you need to dress a little warmer this Thanksgiving.

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I paired it with IRO boyfriend jeans because I’ll be spending  this Thanksgiving chasing a toddler but want to make sure my velvet top is on full display when I’m seated at the dinner table (not matter how brief that may be).  I need to be mobile and comfortable all Thanksgiving year long. Am I right, fellow moms?

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Since the holidays are such a sartorially festive time, a time that many of us want to dress up even when we might normally take a more casual approach to personal style, I’ve put together some holiday outfit tips specifically for busy women like you.

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  1. Wear an effortlessly festive top. This velvet cami won’t show stains (read: it’s baby proof!), can be layered and is on-trend with it’s velvety softness. I also love this velvet blazer from Old Navy which is perfect for those that experience real Autumn. You can also go for a sleeveless turtleneck in case it gets drafty, but you want to show those guns!
  2. Give in to the choker trend. I know what you’re thinking, but there’s a reason they’re back. It’s a good one! If you have a toddler you know how dangerous it can be for both parties when you wear a statement necklace. A choker is simple and sweet, but still makes a statement. They’re also super affordable.
  3. Wear loose-fitting bottoms. This is a no-brainer. Everyone does this for Thanksgiving. It’s your time to let loose… your pants that is! I like these …and I love their price.
  4. Wear a dress over your jeans. If your Thanksgiving plans are too formal for jeans and a cami, throw a dress on over your jeans (that’s a thing now!) and wow your company with your top half while being strategically comfortable on the bottom. Check out this article in Vogue for inspiration. I’m adding everything on there to my ‘dream wish list’; especially outfit #2.

Wherever Thanksgiving takes you this year, I hope you have a wonderful time and know that you are beautiful and loved no matter what you wear to the dinner table. Happy Thanksgiving!

Heatwave

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If you’re in LA, I hope you are surviving this heat wave! OMG it is hot. I moved away from AZ for a reason and surviving 100 degree Falls in LA was not it. I haven’t blowdried my hair in a week. Having it up in a messy bun is key, but I wore it down (and curly!) today because I have a work event and wanted to look a bit more professional.
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^Love my new cuff that you can’t really see here, but it’s engraved with a very important word, ‘adventure’. Every Adventure Project + Shopsoko Adventure cuff purchased will feed one person in Kenya and support local entrepreneurs.

Harlowe’s dress / My dress

Mom Blazer

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What I love about blazers is that they instantly elevate whatever else you wear. Throw this blazer on over sweats and your school drop-off duds are now office appropriate. Throw a blazer on over a denim skirt and your on-trend brunch outfit just got even better. I call this blazer the ‘mom blazer’ because well, it can do anything. You know, like a mom. The cut lends it the ability to be perfect for work, but it’s softness makes it comfy enough for playdates. I never thought I’d say this, but thank goodness it’s Fall so we can get back on the layering train. I love how polished adding a simple blazer can make even the plainest of jeans and tees. Psstt…I have a promo code for this blazer below!
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Blazer c/o get 15% off with code: FALLBETHANN15 / DSTLD jeans / James Perse Tee / Rag and Bone boots 

Work, Work, Work, Work, Workwear

My office has a casual dress code. We’re talking backwards hats, ripped jeans and sandals. This is one of the many things I really like about working at The YouTube Space LA, but — you can be unabashedly you, wear whatever you want and that has no baring on your performance.  It’s the kind of freedom I’ve always dreamed about from an office job, the kind that affords me the opportunity to have lavender or silvery-gray hair.

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Since outfits can greatly affect my mood and confidence levels, there are days when I go in looking like an outsider, but feeling like a boss.

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As a mother to two young (and ridiculously adorable!) children, I love the culottes movement. All the fanciness of skirts, but none of the potential wardrobe malfunctions. Running down the street chasing a lost, but very critical, rolling toy and inevitable bending down to collect it from underneath someone else’s car in no need for concern in culottes, my friends.

Top and Pants c/o Dezzal / Shoes

Bold Move

 

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When cutouts initially made their way on to the scene, I thought I was too old to wear them. The thought that, as a mother, it may be inappropriate to show this much skin crossed my mind. Now, years later I say, why the heck not? Wear the cutouts. Wear them in red and wear them braless! One thing that really sunk-in for me in the years since we first saw cutouts is that fashion is not something to be taken seriously. Unless we’re talking seriously fun. Moral of the story: Enjoy your dessert…and wear the cutouts, my friend. Life is too short not to be bold, right?

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Dress c/o Dezzal / shoes / sunnies 40% off!

 

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